RE:10 years ago
(Date Posted:04/25/2008 1:42 PM)
I've done some thinking about the past lately myself, having turned 30 yesterday. Made me feel pretty damn old lol. When I think back 10 years, I can barely recognize the person I was then. At 20, I was an obedient, fundamentalist teacher's assistant at a Mennonite school living in rural America. At 30, I'm a humanist, feminist, not-very obediant writer/entreprenuer/mother/wife living in an urban area in canada. Who knew? Maybe ten years from now, I'll look back at 30 and realize how much I've changed..again.
Speaking of a Christian dating site, I was a member of something similar once, just about ten years ago,too. A friend of mine from church decided I should be looking for a guy and said we should sign up for this dating service together. I did, figuring what could it hurt? It was a small-time thing, there were few guys on the list who lived near me and I probably wouldn't get many responses. Wrong-o. I ended up getting LOTS of responses, which would have been a good thing ....
A. If I had actually wanted a serious relationship at the time
B. If most of the guys weren't so creepy. They seemed so desperate, which I assume must have been true,with all the pressure to find a mate in Christian culture. They all talked marriage so early in the conversation. Yikes. I may have been a fundy but I wasn't a complete fool. I knew what Christian marriage was like for a woman;you pretty much lost your identity, and I was in no hurry to get into it. I thought (hoped, actually) that God wanted me to be single.
I'm not a trusting person by nature and I didn't feel comfortable talking with these strange dudes, especially when they seemed to want to by pass friendship entirely. This one guy started talking about his "temptations" and how he needed a woman so he wouldn't burn with lust. He went on to say that being tempted so frequently could drive a man to rape. That was it for me. I knew all the guys weren't as crazy as that one, but I'd had enough anyway. For the next few months I had my mother answer the telephone and tell any guy I'd met through the dating service that I'd moved to Alaska.
(Message edited by logophile on 04/25/2008 1:44 PM)
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