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(Date Posted:04/06/2008 11:55:20)

So a few months ago I was on here everyday and I left a few posts in my wake. Nothing too exciting. Those posts reflected my life and I guess I'm sort of writing a reflection for myself right now. I'd still love to hear what you guys have to say though. I don't know if snakechic still hates giving advice but I still want some even if you do!

Maybe I've been looking for happiness in the wrong places. Or maybe I've been making the same mistakes over and over again. Like smoking pot. Before I became a fundy I toked everyday and after I left the church I jumped right back in. I'm not saying pot is bad. It would be easy to blame my unhappiness on anything. I usually do that. I feel unhappy and decide its the pot depressing me but then I'm even more upset when I quit. God I wish life was easier.

I think having a girlfriend would magically put my life together but I also thought getting drunk on the weekends would do that but it didn't. There's no point of even continuing this post. I'm pissed because I don't have a girlfriend. Is that what it comes down to? Has that been always bugging me? Then I try to cover it up with smoking and drinking? maybe even relgion? When I was in church I would think, "God, you have a partner set up for me and now I just have to be patient." I was happy then because I was sure God had a woman for me.

Urgh. Screw capitalism. I got my car towed yesterday.

Someone please make sense of all of this!!!!!!!!
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RE:arcade fire update on life
(Date Posted:04/06/2008 15:20:41)

Don't mind me arcadefire. Hehehe...Sounds like you are giving yourself pretty good advice...or at least are in the process - asking yourself questions / reflecting on your past, deciding what were mistakes ...and saying what you want.

Sounds like to me you are aware of all the kinds of things ..the quick fixes - first the religion, the pot/drinking and the idea that having a girlfriend will someone how 'fix you up' or complete you.
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I get the distinct impression that ..what you are feeling or going through although difficult or confusing is telling you something?
Maybe its as simple as....
I want life to be easy - very easy  (magical) because I'm scared to change what I'm doing. And what I'm doing is 'not much' -
Avoiding the challenges of life...like actually going out to places where there is a possibility of meeting new people.
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I hope this doesn't sound too challenging to  you arcade....believe me its something we all do or not do at sometime or the other. You are not alone in this  - heaps of people find life sucky at one time or the other and get pissed off with themselves.

Heaps and heaps of people like or liked  the idea or comfort of sitting in church with 'wishful' thoughts - that also relieve the individual of taking direct action in their own lives.


Good post - great that you can be so open and honest.



(Message edited by snakechic On 04/06/2008 15:26:35)

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In exchange for obedience, Christianity promises salvation in an afterlife; but in order to elicit obedience through this promise, Christianity must convince people that they need salvation, that there is something to be saved from. Christianity has nothing to offer a happy person living in a natural, intelligible universe. If Christianity is to gain a motivational foothold, it must declare war on earthly pleasure and happiness, and this, historically, has been its precise course of action. In the eyes of Christianity, woman(man) is sinful and helpless in the face of God, and is potential fuel for the flames of hell. Just as Christianity must destroy reason before it can introduce faith, so it must destroy happiness before it can introduce salvation.

-- George H Smith, Atheism: The Case Against God

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RE:arcade fire update on life
(Date Posted:05/22/2008 14:31:44)

Hello arcade fire, I managed to see Arcade Fire last year at the Reading Festival as they were the penultimate band on the main stage on Saturday (Red Hot Chili Peppers were the final band) and it was a great gig.  It was even televised so I was able to see the show again on one of the music channels and relive it.

There is a cliche which states that before you can love another you need to love yourself first and that's very true otherwise you'd get yourself into a very unhealthy relationship.  On leaving fundyism after the initial angry feelings arising from the knowledge that I was betrayed by religion I was able to love myself more though not fully as I have a long way to go.  At least I was able to pamper myself a bit and make some choices for myself rather than deferring to God or should I say the church leaders and elders on everything. 

At least you're free to go out and get a girlfriend now.  It's your choice whether to have one or not and who to date.  One of the lies about fundyism is that God provides you with a partner.  He does not and even the church elders know this.  It's a platitude they use to keep the faithful 'waiting' while they go out and grab the goods for themselves.
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